Initial Concerns

Do I have to be Catholic?

No. Catholic Engaged Encounter does present God as a focus for a successful marriage. While the weekend will be presented in a Catholic expression of faith, each weekend is open to couples of all faiths that are aligned with the mission statement of Catholic Engaged Encounter. The opportunities of the weekend go well beyond the boundaries of any one faith expression. We are not going to try to convert you or pressure you in any way. Couples where neither person is Catholic are also welcome.

Does Engaged Encounter Satisfy the Catholic Church’s Requirement for Marriage Preparation?

Within the Diocese of Honolulu, Engaged Encounter is a requirement as part of your marriage preparation. Our program is also frequently accepted in other Dioceses and states. At the conclusion of the weekend, you will receive a certificate to present to your priest or deacon verifying your participation.

What if We Are Civilly Married?

After you meet with your priest or deacon and he schedules your wedding, you are welcome on the weekend as you prepare for your sacramental marriage within the Church.

Do We Have to Speak In Front of the Group?

No. Engaged Encounter is non-threatening. You will be asked to introduce yourself and your fiancé. This is the only time you are required to speak in front of the group. There will be only two group discussion periods, one short and one longer. Participation is voluntary. No one is forced to speak out. The weekend is not group therapy. Your privacy will be respected. The weekend is not counseling nor is it based on group discussions. The weekend is designed for the two of you to have quality time for private discussions.

What does a weekend cost?*

O’ahu cost is $350.00 per couple which includes meals, lodging and supplies.

Neighbor island cost is $300.00 which covers meals, facility costs and supplies.

This fee can be paid online by credit/debit card or through the mail by regular check. We are unable to hold a spot for you on a given weekend date until payment is received. Online payments are confirmed immediately. If you make a payment by mail you will receive a phone call or email confirming your registration.

Financial Aid is available. Please have your priest or deacon call our local coordinators, Deacon Dave Kane Kauai Island Contact Immaculate Conception Parish (808) 245-2432 (Office hours are 8:00-12:00 p.m. M-F) to discuss the financial hardship being experienced by the couple. No couple will ever be turned away due to the lack of funds.